Attributes of Emotional Intelligence
The term ‘Emotional Intelligence’ has been gaining a lot of impetus lately. Companies and recruiters have realized the significance of hiring associates who are emotionally intelligent. To the layman, this just becomes another of those million skills that the employer is looking for and we are trying to understand. Many even question the prominence of emotional intelligence over IQ which actually gets the job done. Studies show that people who are emotionally intelligent often achieve a lot more in life than people who are not. Again, it is very necessary to understand the importance of the term.
Emotional intelligence is nothing but the capability to recognize your emotions, comprehend what they’re telling you, and realize how your emotions affect people around you. It also involves your perception of others: when you understand how they feel; this allows you to manage relationships more effectively.
After going through the meaning of emotional intelligence, we start to identify people we know with it. These are the easy going people who others always want on their teams. The people with whom it is always easy to talk to.
In his book titled “Emotional Intelligence – Why It Can Matter More Than IQ” 1995, Daniel Goleman, an American psychologist, developed a framework of five elements that define emotional intelligence that are listed as follows:
Emotionally intelligent people are often very self-aware. They understand the fact that everyone has flaws. In fact, they not only understand this but they also recognize their flaws. They are ready to work on these flaws and learn new skills in order to perform better. Further, they do not let their emotions control them it is vice versa, they have a good grasp on their emotions. Learning to be self-aware is not a simple process, but doing so can improve one’s leadership skills and lead to a more supportive business culture.
Self- awareness is regarded as the most important characteristic of being emotionally important but self-regulation is equally, if not more necessary. To be aware is to have the knowledge, to regulate, is to act upon that knowledge. People who are emotionally important understand that it is okay to have emotions and it is really not in one’s control to experience them from time to time. What is in our control, is the reaction to these emotions. People who self-regulate typically don’t allow themselves to become too angry or jealous, and they don’t make impulsive careless decisions. They think before they act.
Motivation and need drive all human form to do almost everything. It is either out of a need that we do things or out of the fact that achieving these things gives us something in return that is worth all the time and effort that we put into doing that thing. The second one is usually termed as motivation. Emotionally intelligent people are usually very motivated to keep doing more than is necessary. This, in turn, makes them highly productive. They look at hardships like challenges and do whatever that is necessary to overcome them. Recruiters look for this quality in individuals as such individuals customarily prove to be assets to the company.
Empathy is the ability to understand the emotions of others without being too quick to pass judgements and comments. Empathetic people usually are great observers and understand body language rather quickly. They tend to understand emotions which are not obviously visible and this makes them excellent at managing relationships. They know just what to say to whom and when. Such people make brilliant leaders as people find it very easy to trust them without the fear of harsh judgement and stereotype.
People who are emotionally intelligent are what one can refer to as ‘people persons’. They find it very easy to socialize and make conversation with other people. Possessing good social skills is one very important indicator of emotional intelligence. These people work very well in a group and think about the progress of the group before that of their individual person. They can manage disputes, are excellent communicators, and are masters at building and maintaining relationships.
As is evident, emotional intelligence can be a stepping stone to success in your personal as well as professional life.
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Mrunmayi Gaikwad, soon to be a wielder of the scales of justice, harbors a twin passion for law and for poetry. Writing is more than just a hobby for her – it is a release. Mrunmayi is an avid reader and hopes to have her own personal library someday. Her family and the city of Mumbai are two pillars of her life.