I recently had a friend message me: I had a fantastic facilitation session. I just cannot tell you how it was … am so emotional … it was magical!
The message set me thinking. Why are we so overwhelmed by our emotions? Why does connecting with our emotions give us a feel good factor? For that matter, what is it that makes a TV series, fairy-tale stories and movies so popular?
If a book, a TV serial or a movie can get you emotional, to the extent of making you cry, more often than not, it is responded to positively, and thus get created many best sellers and superhits.
Maybe the emotions we experience while reading or watching a movie are those that we identify with somewhere deep within us. Sometimes pent up and kept away, and at other times, blissfully unaware of these emotions within us, when released through whatever medium, they give us relief.
Moreover changing times that call for increased responsibility and stressful lives, leave us with little time for ourselves. We are often caught in a web, either between one activity and another or from one thought to the next. With lifestyles and work becoming highly competitive and task oriented, we are simply left with no time or energy to connect with our emotional side.
Rationale takes over, and before long, we have overused this aspect to the extent of either being emotionally drained or emotionally dry in either case, with similar results – lack of awareness, insensitivity to others and the self and living an imbalanced life with just half of our faculties working effectively (Considering that emotions and rationale are two of our major faculties).
Sometimes facilitation sessions with experienced trainers, sensitivity training also help. However one must be careful, not to take this to another extreme.
When excessively emotional, people tend to be more vulnerable and volatile too. They place so much importance to their emotions, that all else fades away, taking them to another level of insensitivity.
It is important then, to strike a balance and practice self-awareness. In nature everything works operates on a principle of balance. Cause and effect seen in every aspect of nature is but a manifestation of that principle of balance. The first step to striking a balance is being self-aware.
While one may feel adequately self-aware, a simple way of verifying this, is to keep a note of the various emotions you experience through the day, what stirred those emotions, and whether you feel your emotional response to that situation or thing could/should have been different (e.g. Anger replaced by compassion). This could also be referred to broadly as analytical meditation.
Done on a daily basis, this first step to getting in touch with our selves could indeed be revealing!
An HR professional, Trainer and Coach for more than 12 years now, Vineeta has done her MBA (HR) from ITM Business School. For a large part of her career, she worked in the field of HR in the corporate sector with companies like United Phosphorus Ltd, STAR C. Currently, she teaches as Visiting faculty in the areas of Business Communication, Interpersonal Communication and Organisational Behavior in colleges in Mumbai and consults at organizations like Poddar Developers Ltd.