“All failure is failure to adapt, all success is successful adaptation.” Max McKeown
Soniya Gawde (Extra-Curricular Head) and Devanshi Parekh (Event Management Head) together planned a very exciting activity for the 2018-20 batch in Semester 1. It was named as ‘MML MasterChef – No Cooking, Cooking Challenge’.
A MasterChef challenge in a management program? Read on to know more about our version of the challenge and its various twists and turns!
Twist No. 1: The class was divided into 6 teams – teams that were formed by putting together students who have interacted less with each other. Basically, everyone was put out of their comfortable circle of people. Then the teams then had to come up with unique, interesting dishes.
The day of the challenge finally arrived. Each team was prepared and was waiting in front of their allotted tables for the competition to start.
And that’s where Twist No. 2 comes into the picture – the real adaptability challenge!
Each team would no longer be working with the ingredients and utensils they had brought. Instead, they now had to use the ingredients of another team, which was decided through a lucky draw. The next 30 minutes were spent in teams taking stock of their new ingredients, working their way around unfamiliar cutlery and crockery and realigning their ideas and coming up with new dishes.
While planning the event, we had been very excited about surprising our classmates with Twist no. 2. Seeing their preparations and enthusiasm on the day of the event, we almost had second thoughts about it. But that’s what we learn day in day out in our lectures – life is unpredictable and emotional intelligence helps us handle it with grace.
Just like the saying that “each coin has two sides”, we experienced two extreme reactions.
On one hand, there was one team who had taken a lot of extra efforts to carry high-end, expensive crockery and even planned an ethnic welcome style for the judges. The initial reaction to the twist involved a lot of chaos, and a lot mixed emotions came to the fore – ranging from confusion and indifference to happiness at being challenged and disappointment at having well-crafted plans thrown out the window –much like how we experience challenging situations in life.
On the other hand, we were amazed to see that all teams started collaborating with each other in no time and they accepted the fact that the twist is the ultimate reality and there were not going to be any compromises on the same. They started filling gaps for each other by sharing their ingredients – a good display of empathy, which is
at the core of emotional intelligence.
Eventually, the challenge was fun and every team brought themselves into their
dishes in their own little ways – from write-ups and innovative names for the dishes to the creative presentation and warm welcome for the judges.
Every small step taken by all the teams was closely examined by all the judges: they looked at parameters like dish name, taste, teamwork, add-on creativity and most importantly adaptability. Soon the winner was announced – the team that called itself The ‘Culinary Champs’.
A debriefing session at the end revealed the following learnings and outcome for the students:
- Team bonding- Students who have had the least amount of interaction with each other were put in one team and hence it led to a lot of new friendships and creation of bonds.
- Time management-The key to time management is to know that every second is valuable. Every team ultimately adapted to the twist and managed to finish it on time.
- Creativity- Emotionally intelligent students are strong believers of NLP presuppositions which state “The map is not your territory” meaning you need to extend your boundaries and think out of the box or rather just dissolve the box. The creativity parameter, however, was reflected very beautifully in all the teams.
- Adaptability- It is precisely at those moments when the glass seems to be “set fair” that fate invariably decides to take a hand.
The core competency of the entire challenge here was adaptability. An emotionally intelligent student is self-aware, self-managed, socially aware and empathetic to become adaptable to any unforeseen challenges, like the challenge of sudden twist in this context. And, here we could easily make out that no student lacks this competency, everyone adapts in a certain time period.Read More
Do you sit in the classroom, daydreaming about your first day at the job? Do you daydream about the day you make your parents proud? Do thoughts about your trip to Greece never leave you? Most of you would have answered yes to these questions. But it must be bothering you that daydreaming might be distracting you from actually achieving these things. Well, the good news is that daydreaming might actually get you there!
You must be thinking HOW? The answer is Creative Visualization. Creative visualization is the cognitive process of purposefully generating visual mental imagery, with eyes open or closed, simulating or recreating visual perception. This is done in order to maintain, inspect, and transform those images, consequently modifying their associated emotions or feelings, with intent to experience a subsequent beneficial physiological, psychological, or social effect. In layman’s terms, it is a mental technique that uses the imagination to make dreams and goals come true.
Let’s have a look at the mechanism behind creative visualization.
Creative visualization is the fruit of the power of the subconscious mind. In psychology, the subconscious is the part of the mind that is not currently in focal awareness. The subconscious mind is the source of infinite power and wisdom. You can conquer the world with the power of your subconscious mind, provided that you are open-minded and receptive towards it.
According to Dr. Joseph Murphy, author of the book ‘The Power of Your Subconscious Minds’, the subconscious mind is a principle and works according to the law of belief. Your ‘thoughts’ can change your destiny. Once the subconscious mind receives an idea, an impression is made on the brain cells, without differentiating between a ‘good’ or a ‘bad’ thought. It then draws on infinite power within you and lines up all laws of nature to get its way.
Hence, what you visualise continually with full belief is impressed upon your subconscious mind. The subconscious mind then works its ways to manifest the visualization into reality. You can thus say that the subconscious mind is like a shooting star, fulfilling your wishes.
According to the computational theory of imagery, which derives from experimental psychology, the process of creative visualization comprises four stages:
Stage 1 is Image Generation. This involves generating mental imagery, from memory, from fantasy, or a combination of both.
Stage 2 is Image Maintenance. This involves the intentional sustaining or maintaining of imagery, without which a mental image is subject to rapid decay, and does not remain for sufficient duration to proceed to the next stages.
Stage 3 is Image Inspection. In this stage, once generated and maintained, a mental image is inspected and explored, elaborated in detail, and interpreted in relation to the participant. This often involves a scanning process, by which the participant directs attention across and around an image, simulating shifts in perceptual perspective.
Stage 4 is Image Transformation. In this stage, the participant transforms, modifies, or alters the content of generated mental imagery, in such a way as to substitute images that provoke negative feelings, are indicative of suffering and exacerbate psychological pain, or that reaffirm disability or debilitation, for those that elicit positive emotion, and are suggestive of autonomy, ability to cope, and an increased degree of mental aptitude and physical ability.
At the lowest point in my life, I had once written, “The mind is the most gullible creature. It will readily believe when you whisper to it that it is happy.” I felt that the world had come crashing down on me. I had even learnt to live with the heavy hurt.
But one day, I just got tired of walking with the crutches of sadness. At that point, I came across this concept of creative visualization. I started visualizing myself to be happy, to be confident. It took me a couple of months, but this ‘daydream’ did manifest into reality. Thus, ‘daydreaming’ about your happy life will bring you one step closer to your happy reality.
Dhwani Joisher has a keen interest in observing the daily nuances of life and relating them to
emotions. Apart from being an enthusiastic learner, she's a dedicated teacher as well. She aspires to
make the coming generation emotionally intelligent.
Emotional Intelligence is experienced – it cannot be learned. The postgraduate students of Batch 2018-2020 of the Masters in Emotional Intelligence program had a field visit to Jijamata Udyaan Zoo in Mumbai to observe people in their element, in their interaction with nature, with animals and even with each other. The trip quickly became an implementation of classroom learning, as the students were then able to create a list of EI-based recommendations for the zoo authorities of Jijamata Udyan.
The zoo was formerly called Raani Baag (meaning Queen’s Garden) after the original British name Victoria’s Garden. Now it is also known as Veermata Jijabai Bhosale Udyaan and Zoo, it’s a zoo and garden covering 50 acres, located at Byculla, in the heart of Mumbai, India. It is the oldest public garden in Mumbai.
Here is a short report:
“I often wonder if the animals think of us visitors, as the various specimens of humankind that they get to see, instead of us thinking of them as specimens of the animal kingdom on display…” this thought was randomly expressed by Sharon D’souza Pretto, Sem 2. There were few visitors besides our large group, being a weekday morning and we decided to observe our own students to understand if the theory which was being imparted to us over these past three months, had actually affected our own behaviour. After all, charity begins at home and we need to practice emotional intelligence before we can preach it.
Our Observations of Human and Animal Behaviour:
As we entered the park through the security gate, we were checked by security guards for plastic bottles and tiffin bags. Students who had bought these had to deposit them to the security guards. The guards seemed to be very particular about their policy on outside food and beverages.
There was a lot of excitement in kids, who were very excited to see the animals. Main animals were Hippopotamus, Deers and the Penguins. Walking towards the Zoo, the group first came across a group of beautiful Spotted Deers. We noticed that they all were sitting in a corner on the sand. After keenly observing them we realized that it was very hot/sunny and they were sitting on the sand near the tree because it was shady there and the sand was wet, which could have been a source of relief for them.
Next up were the Hippo and its baby! It was mesmerizing to watch that sight as it reflected the relationship between the parent and child – a parent helping the baby to have a complete dip in the water and the baby trying to match its steps with the parent hippo.
On the human front, students noticed that there were no guards around most enclosures. There were guards only near the penguins – they were the ones who stole the limelight. Penguins are very expressive in nature and are quite similar to humans as even they prefer to stay in groups, tend to follow what the other has started, different moods, etc. When the penguins were being fed, many visitors started to bang the glass wall and also shout. Not only was this against the rules and regulations of the zoo and also an unacceptable behaviour on our part since the banging on the walls and other loud noises were very intimidating to the penguins.
To make things worse, even though it was strictly mentioned that no photographs were to be taken and no flashes were to be used, many visitors were still doing it and some were even doing it secretly. It can be understood that humans tend to not follow the rules. It could also reflect the current craze of social media, posting every trending thing seen.
One of the students also observed that shops near the enclosures also cause noise and ruckus. The park was also getting renovated which caused a lot of disturbance to the animals. One of the students hence researched that a tree called Polyathia Longifolia can be grown which alleviated noise pollution.
These EQ rich observations also promoted a need to provide EQ rich recommendations, which are as follows:
Recommendations to make the Zoo an EI rich space:
To make the visit to the zoo a pleasant experience for the visitors as well as the animals, here are a few EI-based recommendations from the students of Batch 2018-2020:
- Orientation Program: Visitors should go through an orientation program before they are allowed to see the animals. This will enable them to enjoy the vast collection of animals, trees and plants of the zoo with integrity. Making sure visitors walk in groups of 15 and officials must provide a guide with them at all times.
- Audio / Visual Presentations: Zoos are in a unique position to educate the public. They can do so with the help of technological additions, such as educational video presentations which have the potential to positively influence visitor behaviour, for example, sharing the harmful effects of teasing animals or showcasing the negative impact of viewing the enclosure from all sides on the animal’s psyche.
- Signs / Symbols / Banners: Use of attractive signs and symbols to encourage visitors to follow rules and regulations in a fun, friendly way for example “Respect The Animals” banner. A symbol could be created depicting a deer, surrounded by litter, with a sad face. Slogans like ‘Do not litter the animals’ home, they do not litter yours’.
- Informative Brochures: Creating and providing informative brochures to visitors clearly highlighting the rules and regulation of the zoo, and a map highlighting the canteen/restaurant, parking space, toilets, zoo shop, play area. It would also be beneficial to provide information on each animal, its behaviour traits, likes and dislikes to encourage people to be emotionally intelligent in their interaction with them.
- Awareness Regarding Safety program: sharing information on the Danger zones of the zoos, importance of respecting barriers and enclosures, handling emergencies; including animal escapes, warning signs, protection from diseases and injury (if any).
In the 21 st century world of globalization, artificial intelligence, robotics, Superpowers and success, all spheres dance on one tune – Human Intelligence. The most upcoming intelligence circling all specialization and specifications is Emotional Intelligence.
Emochi Express’s Innovation
Our Innovation ‘E-Eye’ blends AI and EI to make life simpler. Technological development has made it possible to make our group’s dream come true. The coding of our ‘E-Eye’ is processed through fuzzy logic theory. We plan to manifest our idea by infusing the EI code at the time of birth.
Emotional intelligence has proven to be useful in various aspects of life. The use of emotional intelligence is made in areas such as self-awareness, safety and ethics, external awareness, big data collection and processing, and also deep learning. Emotional intelligence has helped these aspects to move one step ahead in their progress chart.
Application of ‘E-Eye’
- Recognizes and identifies different types of emotions.
- Any specific emotion being experienced by the individual is displayed via a circle on the arm. The circle changes colours as per the emotions being felt. For example, Red Circle indicates Anger, Green Circle indicates Calmness.
- Calls and messages can be sent and delivered by a swipe on the arm. This feature is activated in the code once an individual crosses the age of 16.
- When two people choose to interact, the codes on their respective arms get automatically connected. So if person X is experiencing the feeling of joy, a blue circle appears on the arm of person Y and vice-versa. This feature helps in understanding what other people are feeling.
- If a member of the family is having recurrent suicidal thoughts, capital ‘E’ alphabet appears on the arms of all the other family members at the same time, as their codes are connected. E represents an emergency.
- If an individual is feeling unwell, capital alphabet ‘H’, that represents health, appears on the arm of the nearest doctor. With a single click, the symptoms of the illness get displayed and the doctor accordingly sends a treatment plan via a swipe on his/her arm, which immediately appears on the arm of the person who is sick.
Day to Day Experience of AI Model (EI).
- The coded device can be used for many other systems as it is a program of artificial intelligence. It can be upgraded.
- It makes our lives more self-controlled.
- We are automatically connected to people who are close to us all the time 24/7.
- The coded device can be used in case of medical and social emergencies.
The benefits include that any individual who has ‘E-Eye’ inserted on the arm would be able to lead a happy and fulfilling life. It would help an individual to identify and label any emotion that he/she would be experiencing. There would be no confusion and less internal conflicts. With the help of this code, the individual would also know how the person in front of him is feeling. It would help the individual to become more empathetic and to avoid jumping into unnecessary conclusions. As there is more clarity of how an individual feels and thinks, he/she would be less frustrated and hence would be able to focus on work and other tasks really well. It would be of great help at the times of distress and crisis. The EI Code taught us that anything is possible when it comes to building one’s own ideas of artificial intelligence. It was built on the foundation of integrating different perspectives of how to maintain one’s emotional health. It highlighted the thought that ‘For any idea to be successful, looking at one concept from different perspectives is necessary’. It taught us the significance of creativity and persistence and to think out of the box. While constructing this idea we realized that the society can benefit a lot from this code as this code not only helps in recognizing one’s own emotions but also helps in identifying other’s emotions. There would be a greater number of individuals in the society who would be self-aware and sensitive. It would lead to a reduction of blame games and a decrease in the incidents of violence. The EI code would hence act as a boon for society.
Students of Semester 1, Batch 2018-2020 were given a group project that required them to explore innovative ideas to integrate EI with AI. This blog post is the outcome of the best idea proposed by the highest scoring group – Emochi Express.
Team members (L-R):
Rushika Mehta, Riddhi Toshniwal, Manali Dumbare, Ahad Dewoolkar, Soniya Gawde, Aruna Prasad, Rinkoo Belani & Aashna Ahir
During an assignment of Strategies to Improve Emotional Intelligence, Ahad Dewoolkar delves into what makes Dalai Lama an emotionally intelligent world leader.
‘We can live without religion and meditation, but we cannot survive without human affection’ – Dalai Lama
Among World Leaders, there is no one like His Holiness the 14th Dalai Lama Tenzin Gyatso – religious and political leader of Tibet and winner of the 1989 Nobel Peace Prize.
Brought up in an unusual childhood, he became the head of the State of Tibet at age 16 and was later forced into exile by the Chinese government. Despite all the hardships he has to endure, he doesn’t give up his fight for freedom and treats all sentient beings with love and compassion. The works of Dalai Lama did not go unnoticed – the welfare of Tibetans, environmental concerns, economics, women’s rights, non-violence, astronomy, physics, and the interaction of Buddhism and science.
Daniel Goleman, who popularised EI, is a close associate of the Dalai Lama and they collaborated to give many ground-breaking works, some of them being books like ‘A Force for Good’ and ‘Vision for Our World’ which shed light on how EI has an impact on the body, the community and the world as a whole.
Dalai Lama expresses his belief that if we only reserve compassion for those that we love, we are ignoring the responsibility of sharing these characteristics of respect and empathy with those we do not have relationships with, which cannot allow us to “cultivate love.” He elaborates upon this idea by writing that although it takes time to develop a higher level of compassion, eventually we will recognize that the quality of empathy will become a part of life and promote our quality as humans and inner strength.
He said that friendship is built on trust and that trust can only be gained with love and compassion, in the absence of pride, jealousy and malicious thoughts. He says “We should all keep our identity and religion aside and consider ourselves humans first. At the fundamental level, all of us seven billion humans are wishing for a “happy life”. The Dalai Lama not only advocates compassion for humans but animals too and frequently urges people to try vegetarianism or at least reduce their consumption of meat.
He further believes that all problems must be solved through dialogue. The use of violence is out-dated, and never solves problems. He believes like physical education, learning emotional hygiene is in great need today. ‘Emotional hygiene’ refers to being mindful of our stresses, emotional traumas, suffering and pain. He calls to adopt daily monitors to deal with psychological pain and wounds when you sustain them. Just like you clean your teeth, you need to cleanse your emotions. He urges people to get rid of disturbing emotions like anger, frustration, and anxiety.
Dalai Lama also says that wealth is important and useful for physical comfort but not for mental comfort. Hence immense wealth fails to bring inner peace. The only way to bring inner peace is to break the destructive emotions. He said modern education, which mostly focuses on materialistic values, should include moral values rooted deep in the love and compassion and with a curriculum on moral ethics without touching any religious aspect.
His contribution to the society in all the fields of life, his ideas on creating Emotional Awareness, Compassion, Empathy, Affection & Emotional Hygiene and acceptance across cultures, religions and languages truly make him an Emotionally Intelligent World Leader.
If Ahad had only two words to describe himself, he would gladly proclaim himself to be Bold & Quirky. If he isn’t applying his Emotional Intelligence Skills in his interactions with others, he can be found singing his heart away or dancing like there’s no tomorrow.
Yash Pai explores the leadership of Elon Musk for an assignment of Strategies to Improve Emotional Intelligence.
Who is Elon Musk?
CEO, Entrepreneur, Businessman, Investor, Founder of Space X, Tesla Motors, PayPal and many more.
Elon Reeve Musk (born June 28, 1971) is a South African-born American entrepreneur and businessman who founded X.com in 1999 (which later became PayPal), SpaceX in 2002 and Tesla Motors in 2003. Musk became a multimillionaire in his late 20s when he sold his start-up company, Zip2, to a division of Compaq Computers.
A Truly Emotionally Intelligent Leader
It’s interesting to watch the leadership styles of certain top CEOs and see how much they’ve discarded traditional organizational structures. Certain concepts like ‘command and control’, ‘empathy’ etc are used by top world leaders today. A man of extraordinary genius and vision, Elon Musk has as many emotional intelligence traits/competencies as those of any great world leader has. Musk is media- ready. He’s charming and articulate with a bit of showmanship thrown in. As Musk powers through 80-to-90 hour work weeks, he manages to balance spending time with his family with responding firsthand to concerns of Tesla customers over Twitter. But beyond that, he’s able to identify others emotions and change the way he works with people in order to better lead. “Effective leadership is due to a lot of factors and emotional intelligence is one” Elon Musk says. “If you understand how your words affect a group of people or how it will impact an individual, you will become more purposeful.” Elon is being compared to the likes of Nikola Tesla, Steve Jobs, Edison, Howard Hughes and James Cameron. Most companies run with the prime motive of being profitable. It is not too often that you come across a businessman who genuinely wants to change humanity. Elon is a rare business leader who is interested in mankind as a whole and wants to explore how technology can change the world we live in. Elon could be the ideal 21st-century industrialist who is pushing the envelope on how business can be done.
Emotional Intelligence Traits Displayed by Elon Musk
● Accountability and Empathy – In response to a recent claim that Tesla had incurred 30% more employee injuries than the industry standard, Musk committed to personal accountability in an email to employees. In it, he indicates that it breaks his heart whenever an employee is injured while building cars and that he sincerely cares for their well-being and safety.
● Lead by Example – Musk believes that you are a CEO, you should be ready and able to do all kinds of tasks as a leader. If you don’t do chores, the company won’t succeed.
● Be Collaborative – Musk understands that teamwork is a necessity for any team or business to succeed. It is integral to employ a team that operates in a cohesive and team-oriented fashion. This sense of pride in team success has to start with the leadership. Elon Musk leads by “doing” more than “telling”. Set an example that inspires your team to succeed as one.
● Be Comfortable with Change – You never know which challenges are going to arise. Successful leaders are able to adapt in any situation and continue pushing forward towards their team’s goals. Whatever comes their way, they understand how to enable their teams to leverage their strengths to find solutions and innovate.
● Put the Right People in the Right Role – Successful leaders set their people up for success. They do not try to force square pegs into round holes. If you want to get the most out of your team, put them in roles that are natural to their behavioral drives. If you try to turn your employees into something they are not, you will lose talent. If people are happy and energetic in their roles, they are going to want the company to succeed.
● A Team with Clarity of Thought – The man knows exactly what he wants and leads a team that is super intense. He hires the best minds on the planet, pays them stock and has no tolerance for bullshit. He is a bridge between the market requirements and what the engineers on the ground aspire to do.
● Taking Feedback – Elon is constantly soliciting feedback and doing self-analysis. He is constantly thinking of what he has done and how it could be done better. For example, he seeks out his critics and tries to converse with them.
● Be the Change you wish to see and not complain about it – Elon Musk, being an exceptional leader likes to takes the matter in his own hands and actually makes a difference in the world when he doesn’t like some things going in a certain way instead of just cribbing about it. He believes in being the change he wants to see.
(Y)oung (A)mbitious (S)ubtle (H)earty – Yash is 22 year old learning enthusiast. He is an aspiring L&D
professional with some realistic goals in life. Besides that, he likes to stay fit and write content too.
Sayli Gaikwad shares her learning from Brig. Sushil Bhasin’s guest workshop on “Developing Passion for Your Work And Thinking Out Of The Box”
When Brig. Sushil Bhasin walked into our classroom one Friday morning, he brought with him a palpable vibe of energy and positivity. He started the day passing on the infectious energy to us, started by making everyone say aloud “Energy is everything and everything is energy” – this set the tone for the next few hours.
After having spent 34 years serving the Indian army, Brig Sushil Bhasin channeled his insights and learnings from army life to making a difference to others’ lives. He has spent the last 14 years as a Master Trainer, Master Coach and Transformational Coach who believes that “Passion in an invisible bug that keeps you awake and going”.
Weekly Masterclass on various topics has been a ritual at MasterMyLife since its curriculum inception. We were indeed fortunate to have him address the Batch of 2018-2020 on how we can find our own passions, and think out of the box.
The day was spent on experiential learning – group activities conducted to drive home the values of collaboration, strategic thinking and importance of humility. Here are a few learnings the class derived from Brig Sushil Bhasin’s interaction – important mantras for a successful and happy life:
– Every second of your time is important, value it.
– We all are unique and there’s no one else like you on earth.
– Always strive to be a better version of yourself.
– Never tell anyone that he is stupid, just tell that he is god’s gift.
– Strengthen your strength and eradicate your weakness.
– Everything that exists has a purpose whether we know it or not.
– People should respect you not your position.
– Knowledge isn’t power, application of knowledge is power.
– Don’t think out of the box, don’t create the box only.
– We always listen to what we think.
– Create a life that you enjoy.
– Live the purpose of your life.
– Work on, what are you going to contribute!?
– We all need to have a mentor, who is your role model, who is interested in you and who has time for you?
– We all are born with a belief system and it grows day by day
– If you want something different, do something different.
– Don’t make a ‘to do list’ make a ‘to achieve list’.
– You create your destiny when you believe in yourself.
– Look at the doors available in your life, don’t cage yourself with walls and ceilings.
– The world can be described as VUCA: volatile, uncertain, complex and ambiguous.
– How to deal with this? V- vision U- understanding C- clarity A- agility and adaptability.
– A good copy is better than a bad original.
– Learn to take risks, don’t play safe.
– Never regret your choices or decisions.
– Never say never, success is a journey, enjoy every minute of it.
– Convert your passion into a profession.
He also mentioned 3 crucial questions in life to ask yourself:
1. What am I good at?
2. What do I love doing?
3. Does it give me money?
The workshop was concluded by the golden sentence that success doesn’t come with what you learn but with what you do and what you learn.Read More
My academic background has focused on accounting and finance. After joining this course when our class received an assignment of reviewing a movie from and EI perspective, it was by far the most creative and interesting challenge that I have ever come across.
TEMPLE GRANDIN (Claire Danes), a young autistic woman, is extraordinarily gifted. She has a remarkable connection to animals and a brilliant mind. This biopic follows Temple from her late teens — as she struggles with both her own limitations and some narrow-mindedness in the communities around her — to her startling first accomplishments. With the help of a supportive family [Julia Ormond (mother) and Catherine O’Hara (Aunt)] and one progressive teacher (David Straitharn), Temple tackles misconceptions about her condition, the sexism of mid-20th century America, and the rigid, insensitive methods of the cattle industry.
In Emotional Intelligence, Social skills refer to the skills required to handle and influence other people’s emotions. The factors that form a part of social skills with regards to this movie are as follows:
1. Developing others
– With respect to helping Temple develop, her aunt and her professor from school (Prof. Carlock) actually understood her situation and accepted her for who she was. She was treated like a normal person. They helped her understand her potential. Prof. Carlock always reminded her that ‘every door leads to a new world’. This was stuck in her memory and it kept her going.
– Temple helped many by making people aware about her condition during the ‘National Autism Convention’ where she told everyone present there that she was “Different, not less”.
2. Inspirational Leadership
– The one person who was her inspiration was her Professor from school – Professor Carlock. He helped her understand her potential and she always confided in him. We could see how determined she was to take a stand against the inhumane treatment of cows. The movie also showed us how affected she was when Prof. Carlock passed away and because of this, she gave her mother a hug.
– Prof. Carlock has had a major influence and impact on Temple. He helped her through her years in school and helped her explore new possibilities. It is because of him that she decided to study Animal Husbandry.
– Unfortunately for Temple, communication was not her strongest point because of her Autism. She took her own time and space to connect with people. She hated to be present at a social gathering for the fear of being misunderstood.
5. Change Catalyst
– The change catalyst in her life was again her professor Mr. Carlock. He helped her by teaching things to her in a different way. Her Visual memory was very strong. So he taught her concepts with the help of pictures.
– Another change catalyst is the ‘Squeeze Machine’. Her connect to the cows in her aunt’s farm was so strong that when Temple had an anxiety attack, she would find comfort in the machine. She was so attached to it that she made a ‘Squeeze Machine’ that helped her. Not many understood her needs, but her blind room-mate accepted this weird request without any kind of hesitation or judgement.
– Temple was so frustrated by the way cows were being treated at the ranch that she came up with a concept called the “Dip Structure”. She believed that “Nature is cruel, but we don’t have to be…” This was another major change catalyst.
6. Conflict Management
– Things were not easy for Temple as she entered the real world. The “Squeeze Machine” was not something that was accepted in the beginning. When they refused to let her keep it, instead of throwing a fit, she started working on a research paper for the same. She let people experience the machine so she could get their inputs. Majority of the girls felt comfort in the machine. The research paper was then submitted and she finally had the permission to keep it in her room.
7. Building Bonds
– Bonding with people was a huge deal for temple since she hated social gatherings and interacting with people in general. She developed a special connection with her room-mate Alice when she understood Temple completely. The scene where Temple allows Alice to hold her arm was very special.
– During the funeral of Prof. Carlock, before she decides to leave, she gives her mother a hug. For a person who does not like to be touched, this was a very special moment for Eustacia.
8. Team Work:
– Teamwork is seen when the girls in her college are actually willing to try the Squeeze Machine. Even after she was accused of using the machine for her sexual pleasures.
OTHER AREAS OF EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE:
– From the movie, it is seen that Temple’s mother, Eustacia had a tough time dealing with Temple’s autism. But she was so strong. She refused to institutionalize her daughter because she believed that her daughter was a genius. Regardless of how her daughter was differently abled, she treated Temple like a normal child by providing her education. She refused to give up on her and stood by her during difficult times.
– Professor Carlock also had the same beliefs as Eustacia. He also treated Temple like a normal child. Since he realised that Temple had a photogenic memory, he taught her subjects differently and stood by her when the school staff made fun of her.
Self-Awareness and Empathy:
– When you’re self-aware, you become empathetic. Similarly, Prof. Carlock was empathetic towards Temple and Eustacia. He believed that Temple was a genius and did not want to give up on a gifted child.
– Similarly, Aunt Ann realised how much trouble Eustacia has to go through. She took care of Temple during the summer and gave her time to settle in. This shows how self-aware and empathetic Aunt Ann is.
1. Being self-aware of your emotions is so important when you have to take care of someone who has autism or any kind of disorder.
2. The spirit of ‘never giving up’ on someone you love is extremely necessary. It gives them assurance that they aren’t alone.
3. During the time of a crisis, being able to manage your feelings and emotions is the solution to any problem.
4. Empathy plays a very important role. It helps the other person gain perspective and can help accordingly.
Sanjana Iyer is a music enthusiast who aims to be a counselor one day. Her family is her anchor. She describes herself as a ‘movie buff’ and wishes to have a CD collection of all her favorite movies. The quote she lives by is – “If you never try, you’ll never know.” | Batch 2018-2020
In my quest to understand the universe, I started delving deep into the world of Metaphysics. The first step in understanding the cosmos is to comprehend the basic elements that it (universe) reinforces. This meant my primary goal was to understand human life. The more I read/researched on life, the more I realized that my knowledge was similar to the tip of an iceberg.
There was more to life than I could ever imagine. As I couldn’t resist my urge to know the remainder of the iceberg which is submerged in water, I enrolled myself for a master’s degree course in Emotional Intelligence and Life Coaching hosted by one of the leading universities in Mumbai called The Mumbai University. The prime goal of this course is to make the students get in touch with their real / natural self. So, the next time we look at ourselves in the mirror, we just don’t decry the reflection of our physical self but also our conscious persona. A few weeks into this course has made me discern the significance of Emotions in our lives. We are so conditioned to conduct ourselves in a particular pattern that we miss out on Acknowledging how we truly feel or our thoughts in general.
The first step in understanding myself is to start acknowledging everything that I feel or sense. I interact with multiple people on a day to day basis and what I discovered through all of this was that most of us don’t acknowledge our thoughts/feelings. Due to this, there’s a major rift within the person. In some cases, the person’s thoughts are not in line with each other which actually affects the social life of that person. Hence, it’s extremely important to acknowledge every aspect of our lives as it helps us be in touch with reality. Also helps us in building awareness about ourselves and the nature around us.
It struck to me that, I could never attain self-awareness unless the basic fundamental was perceived in the right manner. The basic fundamental in our lives are the emotions that we experience as well as the thoughts that come along with them. Without awareness of who I am or my existence, I can never attain my final objective of understanding the universe in its totality. Similar to the world that we live in, there’s a different one within us and it’s imperative to explore it. To travel inwards (look within one’s self) is something that we should all inculcate and practice. Through what I’ve experienced with acknowledging my thoughts and emotions, I can guarantee that the journey inwards is one of the most distinctive experience that you’ll ever have. Advancement in technology and science comes with a baggage of its own. Even if it helps to cover the gaps between people from different countries or help ease their lives, this also creates a void/space within us.
As everything turns into virtual reality, there’s one thing that unfortunately cannot which is our emotions. Because of us investing most of our time on the internet, the acknowledgment part which I mentioned earlier goes for a toss. This results in augmenting the hollowness within a person which later snowballs into something very serious.
Having said that, there’s no denying that we need technology to support our day to day lives but it should be prudently used. We should invest more time on ourselves because eventually, everything else falls into perspective if we exist. If we take our existence out from the entire picture, everything else would seem void.
With this, I wish to sum up my blog by sharing this one powerful question that was asked to my batch mates and me by one of our professors. The question was “Who are you?”. As simple as it sounds, it was one of the most difficult questions to answer. I knew that this was more than just my biological identity. Most of the students came up with unique answers. I’ll take this privilege of sharing mine. I answered, “I’m an unconscious being who’s added like a drop in this myriad ocean called the universe”.
Siddharth Bantval can be described as a Realist, Analytical Thinker, Sociable, Nature lover, multi-dimensional, psychologist. He has always been keen to understand various aspects of human life, right from biology to psychology and that is how he landed here. He carries balls of energy with him which he hands over to people for them slacken down and live in the present. He believes that he is here to add value and make a difference in people’s life. | Batch 2018-2020
American actor, producer and Academy Award winner Morgan Freeman, once said that
“The best way to guarantee a loss is to quit.”.
Over the years, there have been lots of books written on winning a race, winning at life and how to be a winner. Indeed, an area to be read and written about. We all strive to succeed, be famous and dwell in the pride that comes with all of that. The life of young leaders, winners and achievers inspires us and motivates us to be better every time. The very essence of winning is in the root of participating and we all must catch this rope at least once to experience the waves of success and even the not so successful one. There is no failure in my dictionary of participation! I am already a winning candidate if I participate. I love something. I work hard to achieve it. I am already a gainer!
Winners get medals and recognition for their winning spirit but participation gives us lots of learnings:
- It is motivational for all.
- It humbles us.
- It helps us to understand our mistakes /shortcomings and work on them.
- It ignites a deep sense of self-love, self-respect and self-worth.
Participation is beyond losing and winning.
Sweet high spirit song
Rum pump rum pump rum pump re,
Open your eyes to a bright day
I will make, bake a new cake
Because I love to participate
I may not know how it will be done
But no harm in taking my turn
Extra sugar cream and Ray
Will make my cake a little more grey
But when I become an elite in it
I can share my experience and bank on it
All that we learn in a day
My name is Rinkoo Belani – best described as a lifelong learner and a shy, sensitive person. A graduate in commerce from Mumbai University, I am a mother of two beautiful children with a superb, supportive life partner. The youngest of five siblings, with simple and loving parents, the sole purpose of my life is having a good family life, becoming a successful and creative writer and blogger and spread the message of love and compassion to those who are not so humane in the world.