Self- Awareness: A vital ingredient to improve Human Relations
A human relation is the skill or ability to work effectively through and with other people. It also includes a desire to understand a desire to understand others, their needs and weaknesses and their talents and abilities.
What does it take to create and maintain healthy relationships? Romantic, a father-daughter relationship; mother-son; friend-to-friend; Supervisor and Employee. There are a few widely popularized answers to this question: time, effort, dedication, honesty, effective communication. And while all these are right answers—certainly essential to a happy, healthy relationship of any kind—there’s another vital ingredient that many undervalue, forget, or simply don’t know realize the importance of. And that’s self-awareness. Get to know yourself better and your relationships will blossom beautifully.
Let’s look at a regular situation at a party.
Shruti, Karan, Rohit and Puja are good friends. They work together in the same company. Its Puja’s birthday and she has invited all of them in the evening for dinner. All decide to go for the party. Shruti has joined the organization only 3 months ago, and being an introvert is a little hesitant to go, however, she decides to go for the party. Everyone is enjoying, having fun, talking to each other and discussing current issues. Rohit, Karan is talking about shares, investments and the market scenario. Shruti joins the conversation. Though she is acutely aware of her lack of knowledge in the subject, she tries her best to keep pace with them. Just then, Karan says, “If you don’t know anything about shares don’t break your head.”
Being an introvert, Shruti felt a little embarrassed. However, Shruti practiced Self-Awareness regularly. Instead of taking offense to Karan’s statement, she reflected on her contribution to the situation and how she could handle it better the next time. If it was not for this moment of reflection and self-awareness, Shruti would most likely either withdraw from their company or hold a grudge against Karan, thereby spoiling the relationship. The reason why Shruti could take it positively is that her Self -awareness manifested at that moment before she jumped to react.
The effects of Self-awareness aren’t momentary, but long term. Shruti also knows that if she comes across the same situation again, she has two options:
1. She can actually choose to upgrade her knowledge.
2. She politely excuses herself from the conversation, since it doesn’t interest her.
Like Shruti, we can all practice self-awareness. Apart from fuelling self-growth, it redeems us from impulsive fight-flight reactions that are known to spell disaster for many a relationship.
Below are certain steps you can implement to develop your self-awareness.
Task One: Who am I?
Self-description, jot down 8-10 bullet points to describe who you are. When you do this you exactly come to know what is happening inside of you, what thoughts are coming every now and then. Afterwards you get an opportunity to correct any negative thoughts. Do it for 3 months consistently to get good results. When you do that continuously you are able to get aware of how you, what you perceive about yourself, slowly you start changing subconsciously and bring positive thoughts in your thinking.
Task Two: Who are you in your peer’s eyes?
Choose a friend you know well and ask him/her to jot down a few bullet points about you. Try to be as honest as possible. This activity is connected with the first one; you need to ask your friend to give you an honest opinion as well as you need to tell the truth. You basically come to know what barriers and obstacles you have within you, are you aware and working on it, keep accountability with your friend. Meet once in 2 weeks to completely notice that you have come out of it. Example-Basically Once I had got a project to work on I was excited I gave all details for all team members, the information was good and valid with facts. Then I noticed that my friends and team members are not so responsive. Later when me and my close friend were sitting together I asked her what happened, something wrong. She said to me information is good but everyone can’t so much relate with facts, I need to look at big picture. I realized and I implemented it
Task Three: Expectations, Perceptions& Assumptions
Reflect on a situation where there is a miscommunication between you and your supervisor. Would you have reacted differently in hindsight? Share and discuss with your peers. This activity needs to be taken initiative because others are not so comfortable talking about their discomforts. When you identify the need to, please go ahead.
Task Four: Self-Disclosure
The ability to let another person know what is real about your thoughts, desires and feelings. Look for opportunities to build good relations with people around by being honest with them, sharing with them about your strength, weakness, helping them also. You can do this when you have any social gatherings, celebration etc.
Developing self-awareness enables you to change your thoughts and interpretations. Doing this allows you to change your emotions. If you can manage your emotions, you can make the changes that you want to your behavior and personality – and that can help you to achieve what you want in your career and in life. Having a clear understanding of your thought and behavior patterns helps you to understand other people. This allows you to empathize, which facilitates better personal and professional relations
My name is Vidhi Sampat. My desire is to be an achiever, look upward in all areas of life. I want to shine and success in what I choose. While writing the blog for self-awareness I just thought that if anyone wants to be happy and live a fulfilling life he needs to know himself first. We may pretend in our society to look good but at some point in time we need to be true to our self that is by being honest with yourself.