Never give up! Let Go! Please Understand. Acceptance is the way!
People keep saying that every now and then, especially the ones who have gained their strength over time by going through thick and thin. Obviously, it’s easier said than done.
Implementation of such factors requires the mental and emotional strength of Vibranium (That’s Unbreakable metal in Marvel Cinematic Universe. If you follow Avengers, you’ll know.)
What those strong people don’t know is that they have overcome those factors and now they might have the endurance towards such scenarios, but people who are still suffering from mental trauma, inferiority, low self-esteem, broken confidence, not feeling accepted by their close ones and many more reasons, these people are still vulnerable and what they need is little more care and time to mend their broken hearts and confidence.
I understand that everyone has their own life goals, priorities and etc., so they might not have enough time even for themselves. What I am requesting from the strong ones is that, as a human being it is also our responsibility to give little time and support to the ones in need, because when we were suffering someone had given their shoulder to cry on, who had given help to lift you up and come out of the suffering and even when no one was there for you, Don’t let anyone else feel the pain of not being supported. Because we are here for higher purposes, to lift up people and make a better society to live in for future generations.
I am asking you to BE THERE for them! Even if it’s for two minutes, call them, text them, make your presence felt in their life, make them realize that they are not alone in this, it may be your ex-husband, wife, boyfriend, girlfriend, best friend, colleague, roommate, classmate, teacher, neighbor or anyone who genuinely needs help. They might be irritating or clingy or wants attention, we need to understand that this is their behavior not that person and a person is different from their behavior! Please always know that humans and their behavior in various situations are just a product of their emotional fluctuations.
Even if they have caused you suffering, don’t find reasons to get back at them, they are also humans and they deserve forgiveness too. What you should do is YOU FORGIVE them, DO GOOD for them because YOU are a GOOD PERSON and in the end it’s what you GIVE is more important than what you can take.
Being there for someone will not only give the other person a feeling of comfort, but it will give you a warmth that you might not have felt while expecting certain things in return instead of giving. It is always the feeling that remains with you in your unconscious mind, the warmth you had felt by someone’s presence, the feeling of being heard and taken care of.
The time when I understood the power of merely being there and giving the other person a safe space to be who they are, to express what they feel is the time I understood that this is the easiest thing a person can do for someone. Many time people say that we all are connected with one thread of humanity that leads us to the unity and harmony with each other. It is the pure intention of care that has power of making your presence count and felt. Things may or may not be in your favor always, but what will be in your favor are the good deeds you took initiatives and completed them successfully.
My experience has taught me that it is not only the downfall that teaches you to rise above your ground, but when you lift others selflessly you lift yourself up with them. Love, care, respect, trust, motivation are the things that come back to you in unexpected ways, hence people say what goes around comes around!
Never ever, let your own insecurities build a wall around you, let your guards down, be vulnerable, show them that it is okay to be vulnerable, communicate openly, support each other, remember details, learn to respect and give them the space to be vulnerable, express that you are there for them and you will be there for them, be the backbone of Vibranium for them that you have never been, but most importantly BE THERE, for them.
At one point of time you may feel that it’s not working, or helping them, but we never know what a simple call can do for them.
One of my friends was suffering from severe depression, all I wanted to do is help that person to come out of it although I did not know how to do it. That time all I did is I gave my time and care to that person, and it worked! It made that person feel heard, and the fact that someone is there and cares for them has given them power to continue with struggles of life.
In the end all I want to say is ‘DON’T GIVE UP ON THEM’ even if they are the ones who gave up on you, because sometimes WE HAVE TO BE THE BIGGER PERSON WITH A BIGGER HEART.
“Maybe it’s not about knowing it all, it’s about diving into the unknown and experiencing it yourself”
I am Poorva Bhatia and this sentence explains my entire being, because I am a person who would want to learn by going through the experience, implement it and let the Lotus of wisdom blossom in form of my Inner Transformation.